About We Listen
We Listen / Слушаем и не осуждаем is Prima Nota’s peer support initiative for women navigating domestic violence, abusive or controlling relationships, divorce, and other significant life challenges.
Volunteers are women with their own lived experience who offer a safe, confidential, non-judgemental space to be heard — not to be fixed. This is peer support, not professional counselling.
Your Role
What you will do:
- Attend induction and ongoing training as required
- Hold regular peer support conversations (typically 45–60 min)
- Maintain session notes using the provided template
- Attend monthly peer supervision sessions
- Refer to professional services when appropriate
- Report mandatory reporting situations to Nina Iouguina immediately
What you will NOT do:
- Provide legal, financial, or medical advice
- Share personal contact details with participants
- Meet participants at private residences
- Make decisions on behalf of a participant
- Manage clinical risk alone
The Five Principles
- Safety — every aspect of your interaction prioritises the participant’s physical and emotional safety.
- Trustworthiness — you do what you say. Keep appointments. Maintain confidentiality. Be consistent.
- Choice — the participant leads. You offer options, never push. “What would be most helpful for you right now?”
- Collaboration — you are alongside her, not above her. You don’t have the answers — you hold the space for her to find her own.
- Empowerment — help her trust her own instincts, not become dependent on yours.
Active Listening
Do:
- Reflect back: “It sounds like that was incredibly difficult…”
- Validate: “Your reaction makes complete sense given what happened.”
- Ask open questions: “What was that like for you?”
- Sit with silence — not every pause needs to be filled.
Avoid:
- “You should…”, “Have you tried…”, “At least…”
- “I know exactly how you feel”
- Rushing to solutions or reassurances
Vicarious Trauma & Self-Care
Supporting people in pain can affect you. This is called vicarious trauma — it is a sign of care, not weakness.
Signs to watch for:
- Difficulty sleeping or intrusive thoughts after sessions
- Feeling emotionally numb or over-identifying with a participant
- Finding it hard to “switch off” after sessions
Confidentiality
Everything a participant shares is strictly confidential. You do not share her name, story, or circumstances with anyone outside the We Listen team.
Contact Nina Iouguina immediately in these situations.
Professional Boundaries
- Use the Prima Nota communication channel — not your personal number
- Meet in safe, public locations or online
- Keep sessions to the agreed time — extensions set expectations
- Share your lived experience purposefully — don’t make the session about your story
- Tell the coordinator when you are struggling — do not manage it alone
Working With Children Check
All We Listen volunteers must hold a current Working With Children Check (WWCC) issued in South Australia before beginning sessions.
- Apply at: screening.sa.gov.au
- Provide your clearance number to Nina before your first session
- WWCC must be renewed every 5 years
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Your First 3 Months
- Before Day 1Read this guide • Complete WWCC • Sign the Assignment Agreement
- Day 1Induction session with Nina • Complete Induction Checklist • Meet buddy volunteer
- Week 1–2First supervised session (if possible) • Familiarise with crisis referral contacts
- Month 1First peer supervision session • Debrief with coordinator • Feedback survey
- Month 3Formal review • Renew Assignment Agreement if continuing
